I’ve always wanted life to be easy for me. I don’t like feeling stressed, overwhelmed, overworked or exhausted. Things I find hard and things you find hard are very personal. For instance, I find it hard to make myself go to the gym which is literally a few steps from my door, whereas you might find it hard to pick up the phone and cold call someone but you would rarely miss a workout. It boils down to habits, talents and skill in my opinion. If you’re already habitually good at something or something comes easy to you then it’s not hard and you’re usually game to do it. When something is challenging you and you don’t want to be challenged then you don’t do it.
But that, of course, is where the growth lies.
When you hear the voice calling you away from the thing that really matters to you and you don’t have the willpower inside to turn towards it and do it anyway then you won’t see the fruits of your labour. So my advice would be to get very clear with what matters to you most.
You can find a coach for that 🙂 (ME!)
Then make a list of the things you know you could do to get there, even if it’s hard. It matters. It has purpose. It’s what you want, so don’t deny yourself that. That’s not love, and remember we are here to love ourselves and the ones around us. Then if you need an accountability coach (again ME) to keep you on track and hold you to your dreams then so be it.
Besides the basic human needs, I can’t see your money being spent on anything greater than reaching your goals. If you need support, get it. I know for me on the eating and exercise front I need a coach or someone consistent in my life if I want to make any significant change because history has proven that I am unable to do it alone. I have tried and I keep trying but if I want actual results I need someone around me 3x a week to keep me on my toes. And it has to be in an enjoyable atmosphere. I keep thinking I can muster the will power within my own being to do it myself but I recognize I haven’t built the stamina yet to sustain it. That’s why a coach is key for me.
I am recognizing too that I need a coach to help write my book, as sitting down to write seems to be a hard task for me to do alone. So, HARD, when there’s a goal involved,is good. It means you are on the right path. And you can choose to make it less hard on yourself if you choose a coach or someone to champion your cause with you. Or you can struggle alone and find that your weight or your book are still not where you want them to be (3 years later – talking to myself) and make it extra agonizing on yourself. WHY? That’s what your people are for. Support. Allow yourself to be supported.
Vanessa Leung and I had such a great convo it was hard for me to stop. I love talking about the mind and the crazy ways it works to hold us back from what we truly want. We spoke about the importance of our internal weather and how we can learn to control its patterns. We talked about the stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck from not being who we want to be.
My story is “I’m so overwhelmed,” but she showed me how easy it is to break. Just by noticing it. Isn’t that something.
We also talked about the importance of mind dumping to relieve stress. I didn’t know I was doing this but it turns out I have been actively mind dumping for years.
I’ve known Sandy Gerber for almost 10 years and the first time I saw her I was drawn in by her magnetic personality. And who knows, maybe she was doing a little bit of marketing communication voodoo on me as well.
I got to talk to her about this conversation or communication technique and I find it riveting how she sees the human mind at work trying to make decisions on what to buy or what to do. She shows us in this interview that you can really have a way with words if you know what someone’s Decision Drivers™ are, which are unique for each individual person.
I found out that mine are definitely an S and a V! Try and see what your love language for communication is as well.
She talks about them in this Live and I am sure you’ll relate to all 4 of them but you will have a dominating 1 or 2.
If you’re ready to take your marketing up a notch then check out her Influential Communications Mastery Program here!
Wishing you the utmost success in your business and life!
Chelsea and I have been friends since the 2010 Olympic Torch Relay. We got to know each other well while we traveled across Canada for 90 days singing, dancing and hugging every Canadian that came out to see the Olympic Flame. It was quite a wild time for us. We would chat about our hopes and dreams on the bus. Chelsea said she wanted to be a photographer and I helped her start to piece together some business ideas. Cut to 10 years later and Chelsea and I both followed our dreams and have made them our realities. She is a soul sister and fellow Light Capturer, Indeed.
In this LIVE we talked about the 3 ways someone can show up as their true essence on camera. I even threw in a bonus tip.
Find out about the AWW factor and how to show up as YOU every time.
I got to chat with one of my dearest friends Sandi Johnston today about the importance of connecting with Mother Earth. I popped her LIVE cherry today. She has never done Facebook live before and I gotta say, I take some pride in being her first. It means so much to me to be able to elevate women’s voices and the amazing work they bring to the world that so aligns with their purposes.
Sandi cares so deeply for our own bodies and our planet. She shares with us the secret to Comfrey Balm if you’ve never heard of it before.
In this LIVE we talked about what we want human hearts to open up to. “Crimes Against Nature” need to stop but we first have to start loving ourselves and seeing the connection between what we are doing to ourselves and ultimately Mother Earth.
We talk about how we can build a conscious consumer.
When the veil between us and others is thinner that’s when empathy, compassion and love can start to take over and we can heal ourselves and our planet.
Please take a listen to this conversation. It’s the most important one I feel like we can be having at this time. This is a huge wake up call for all of humanity. What if life and sharing wasn’t considered inconvenient? What if we could reconnect with self and shift our perspective of what we deem important?
Sandi says “Our personal suffering is because of the tension and eversions we have towards our own truth.”
What if we put nature and the truth of life first?
AbneetSandhar is OBSESSED with guiding women back to their inner healing capabilities and reclaiming their power.
On our LIVE we talked about what it’s like being pulled in so many different directions as we try to operate in a hyper-masculine way. We experience burn out, depression, anxiety and overwhelm. Abneet talks to us about how there could be another way:
Stepping into our Feminine heart.
Abneet teaches us how on the show.
“When we listen to our feminine heart we become the queen of ease.”
Abneet so clearly states, “Femininity is not a performance. It’s an inside job.”
It’s not pushing to be all the things to all the people and grasping for validation. It’s learning to lean in and listen to our truth and be willing to open to our sensitivities.
Abneet had her first initiation into the feminine heart with the Awakening Women’s Institute, where she learned about her goddess archetype. She surrendered her body and allowed the ecstasy of that feeling to guide her to becoming the Indian Mystic and a Wild Flowing River she is today.
She says we are not here to unplug but instead to train ourselves every day to leave the body open through breath, movement, and meditation.
“We are Earth. We have seasons,” and we have a sacred responsibility to brush the teeth of our soul every day.
All it takes is focus, attention, and discipline.
I say: “You can’t just believe it, you’ve got to vibe it.”
At the end of the episode we take you through a breath meditation to help you touch base with your feminine heart today.