How to change when it’s so freaking hard

How to change when it’s so freaking hard

I’ve always wanted life to be easy for me. I don’t like feeling stressed, overwhelmed, overworked or exhausted. Things I find hard and things you find hard are very personal. For instance, I find it hard to make myself go to the gym which is literally a few steps from my door, whereas you might find it hard to pick up the phone and cold call someone but you would rarely miss a workout. It boils down to habits, talents and skill in my opinion. If you’re already habitually good at something or something comes easy to you then it’s not hard and you’re usually game to do it.  When something is challenging you and you don’t want to be challenged then you don’t do it.

But that, of course, is where the growth lies.

When you hear the voice calling you away from the thing that really matters to you and you don’t have the willpower inside to turn towards it and do it anyway then you won’t see the fruits of your labour. So my advice would be to get very clear with what matters to you most.

You can find a coach for that 🙂 (ME!)

Then make a list of the things you know you could do to get there, even if it’s hard. It matters. It has purpose. It’s what you want, so don’t deny yourself that. That’s not love, and remember we are here to love ourselves and the ones around us. Then if you need an accountability coach (again ME) to keep you on track and hold you to your dreams then so be it.

Besides the basic human needs, I can’t see your money being spent on anything greater than reaching your goals. If you need support, get it. I know for me on the eating and exercise front I need a coach or someone consistent in my life if I want to make any significant change because history has proven that I am unable to do it alone. I have tried and I keep trying but if I want actual results I need someone around me 3x a week to keep me on my toes. And it has to be in an enjoyable atmosphere. I keep thinking I can muster the will power within my own being to do it myself but I recognize I haven’t built the stamina yet to sustain it. That’s why a coach is key for me.

I am recognizing too that I need a coach to help write my book, as sitting down to write seems to be a hard task for me to do alone. So, HARD, when there’s a goal involved, is good. It means you are on the right path. And you can choose to make it less hard on yourself if you choose a coach or someone to champion your cause with you. Or you can struggle alone and find that your weight or your book are still not where you want them to be (3 years later – talking to myself) and make it extra agonizing on yourself. WHY? That’s what your people are for. Support. Allow yourself to be supported.

If you want to book your free discovery call with me (where you’re promised an ah-ha or inspired action guaranteed) then take this opportunity to reach out. I would love to hear about your big dreams and goals.

It can be hard and it can be worth seeing the payoff. 

Love + Light

Adera

How to Make A Global Change

How to Make A Global Change

We all know that the environment and our planet is of paramount value, but we have taken it for granted. We get so much from Mother Earth but it is our duty to take care of her, and we (the masses) are doing a shitty job of it at the moment.

Would you agree?

If so, don’t miss my conversation with Connie Linder from Intengine, The Engine For Good, which helps you find socially and environmentally responsible suppliers for your home or business. You can bet we will be joining. But it’s more than just signing up, it’s changing the way we’ve been doing things. We all know change takes time so everything you do that isn’t environmentally sound needs to be looked at and redefined. Her company helps you learn how we do that. I know I need help with that and if you do too then I encourage you to check it out.

 

FIRST STEP: Be intentional when purchasing and start to see how much plastic and nonrecyclable things you could be buying throughout your day and multiply that by the billions. You can see why our planet might need some help. I have been immersed in conversation around this very topic for weeks. I didn’t know that I had a plastic coating over my business cards that can’t be recycled. I didn’t know how much plastic was in everything that doesn’t get recycled. I didn’t think about the number of feminine hygiene products used and how that’s filling the landfills. I’m switching out my business cards for my next batch, I am monitoring and minimizing how much plastic I buy and I switched over to a DIVA CUP and now I gotta figure out how to use the bloody thing. No pun intended.

But little shifts create big shifts when we choose to do it together. So let’s choose it together, shall we?

 

Love

Adera

Release Stress By Mind Dumping

Vanessa Leung and I had such a great convo it was hard for me to stop. I love talking about the mind and the crazy ways it works to hold us back from what we truly want. We spoke about the importance of our internal weather and how we can learn to control its patterns. We talked about the stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck from not being who we want to be.

 

My story is “I’m so overwhelmed,” but she showed me how easy it is to break. Just by noticing it. Isn’t that something.

We also talked about the importance of mind dumping to relieve stress. I didn’t know I was doing this but it turns out I have been actively mind dumping for years.

 

 

Master your Marketing Communication

Master your Marketing Communication

I’ve known Sandy Gerber for almost 10 years and the first time I saw her I was drawn in by her magnetic personality. And who knows, maybe she was doing a little bit of marketing communication voodoo on me as well.

I got to talk to her about this conversation or communication technique and I find it riveting how she sees the human mind at work trying to make decisions on what to buy or what to do.  She shows us in this interview that you can really have a way with words if you know what someone’s Decision Drivers™ are, which are unique for each individual person. 

I found out that mine are definitely an S and a V! Try and see what your love language for communication is as well.

She talks about them in this Live and I am sure you’ll relate to all 4 of them but you will have a dominating 1 or 2.
If you’re ready to take your marketing up a notch then check out her Influential Communications Mastery Program here!

Wishing you the utmost success in your business and life!

 

Love

Adera

How to Capture Your True Essence On Camera

How to Capture Your True Essence On Camera

Chelsea and I have been friends since the 2010 Olympic Torch Relay. We got to know each other well while we traveled across Canada for 90 days singing, dancing and hugging every Canadian that came out to see the Olympic Flame. It was quite a wild time for us. We would chat about our hopes and dreams on the bus. Chelsea said she wanted to be a photographer and I helped her start to piece together some business ideas. Cut to 10 years later and Chelsea and I both followed our dreams and have made them our realities. She is a soul sister and fellow Light Capturer, Indeed.

In this LIVE we talked about the 3 ways someone can show up as their true essence on camera. I even threw in a bonus tip. 

Find out about the AWW factor and how to show up as YOU every time.